Winning the Comparison Game

It’s so funny how Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat…and any other form of social media you can think of has the pleasure of giving others a glimpse into our lives. I can’t go thirty minutes on social media without seeing that someone’s engaged, pregnant, or taking a trip to Dubai. I know, the point of social media is to stay involved and connected with others, without letting them know just how nosey you really are. And honestly, I’m not totally against it, because social media will tell you everything you need to know about a person. From where they were three months ago to who they dated last night. Pictures alone, tell it all ! But like I said before, social media gives us a “glimpse” into others lives.

And those small “glimpse”can easily turn into the comparison game for some. Don’t act like you don’t know this game. You see someone doing really well, or at least they “look” like it, and you start evaluating or comparing where you are in life…I’m not in a relationship but all my friends are. I have three degrees and I’m still not making the money I want. Hold up, they just bought another house, Lawd, I’m still trying to save for one…and literally everything comes into question as to why things aren’t working the way they should in your life.

We all have expectations and ideas of how our life should go, which we should, but is it really how life works? It’s almost as if we expect that life should happen or work a particular way due to what we’ve seen or been taught. Again, some of these thoughts contribute to social media and society, but much of it’s due to our environment…who and what we’re exposed to mentally and spiritually. And when we “feel or think” things aren’t going our way, we have the audacity, to feel cheated or less successful. You may or may not have the relationship, career, money, or status that someone else has. But why would you want to be like someone else?!

I encourage and challenge you to BE who God called you to BE.

When you know your self worth and purpose in God, the comparison game is worthless. There’s nothing anyone can say or do to sway your thoughts and mindset on what you’re purposed to do through Him. And the timing in which it’s suppose to happen, isn’t a topic of discussion, at all. Timing no longer matters, for God knows exactly what we need, when we need it.

There was a time in my life when everything I felt confident and sure about, was stripped away from me. I remember thinking, well what am I suppose to do now, who’s going to love me, and how am I going to survive. It was almost as if God was saying, Trust me and let me show you who you really are. I had no other choice but to get in the word, trust God and walk by faith. And through the process, God changed my life for the better. Doors of opportunity opened, my faith in Him increased, and I became my authentic self.

I know, the comparison game is played the most during the holidays. And with Thanksgiving and Christmas coming up, it’s easy to get distracted. So at any time you find yourself playing the comparison game, keep these winning pointers in mind:

5 Tips to Winning the Comparison Game 

  1. Focus on the Positive – The things you’ve accomplished, being able to pay your bills, having a place to lay your head, having family and friends, est.
  2. Remember What God Promised You- God is true to His word and will do what He said He will do. Keep your faith and belief in Him.
  3. Speak Life Over Yourself – Life and death is in the power of the tongue. Don’t speak negativity about yourself or your situation. Bring into pass what you’re believing for.
  4. Thank God in Advance for the Things to Come – Thanksgiving is a key to manifestation, give thanks.

Thanks for reading and Happy Thanksgivings! #SimplyBE

-BJ

 

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